2021 was a tough, emotional roller coaster of a year as COVID-19 provided a Second, Third, and a Fourth Wave. Just when we thought it might be safe to resume our routines, the Fifth Wave – Omicron – arrived at the start of the 2021 Holiday Season. For many people, new disappointment compounds older disappointment. Key questions at year-end 2021/early 2022 might be “Where are we?” and “Where do we go from here?”
Why Environment Based Habits Often Fail
Trying to predict the COVID – driven availability of restaurants, schools, shopping malls, and gymnasiums is challenging, and will frequently lead to disappointment. If you cannot control the environment you must find new ways of perceiving your environment. For example, pandemic-related uncertainty makes New Year’s Resolutions such as more quality gym time difficult to maintain when the gym is closed, or it closes so frequently that you are reluctant to commit to a three, six, or twelve-month membership. The same might be said of starting a quilting class, a new language, a new relationship, or a new job. If we cannot depend on a stable external environment, how might we move ahead with healthy habits?
Healthy Responses to Losing the Old Environment
Habits are conditioned by the environment in which they are formed, and if the environment changes the habits can be lost. The loss of a favourite gym spin class, yoga studio, or pottery shop and quilt guild can be disorienting for many people. It is all too easy to dwell on what you have lost. Negative Thoughts can occupy your brain – so that you can feel sad, worried, angry, and anxious. This uncertain state is when unhealthy habits may embed, habits such as:
• Eating without prior planning because it feels good;
• Procrastinating because you are too overwhelmed to even get started;
• Lying in bed all day because you are “just too tired to do anything;”
• Surfing the Net or watching TV all day because you “just don’t feel like doing anything;”
•Using alcohol, marijuana, or other substances to “calm” or “stimulate” your brain;
• OR …. fill in the blank with whatever habit that doesn’t serve your best interests.
The Way Ahead – Develop a Future Focus
“Break old patterns that no longer serve you” is easy to say, but it is hard to do alone. You are more likely to succeed if you have a multi-layered strategy, including an “accountability coach,” and habit-building routines.
Accountability…find:
• AN EXPERT COACH. If possible, try person-to-person, with allowances for social distancing, masks, etc. However, COVID-19 has made using the Internet normal. You can easily find an:
o Online local gym, studio, or guild.
o YouTube has thousands of free videos on every subject under the sun.
• ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER(s):
o This might be your coach or your teacher, but it works better if you have a peer sharing the same experiences with you.
o Having one partner, or two, or ten helps keep you coming back for more sessions for social reasons. Nothing builds an accountability community better than having a chance to mutually gripe about the weather, if outside, or that perky teacher if in an online class.
o If you absolutely must, deputize a family member or friend that you respect enough to NOT rebel if they do call you to account.
Habit Building
• CREATE your own Micro-Environment. Create what ancient monks called the sanctum, sanctorum – “The Holy of Holies” – your private place, in which you find more space for your spirit to expand than you would outside. This may be your basement, your garage, your spare room – wherever you feel totally at home – and without distractions. Leave your phone outside your private space unless you are watching an instructional video.
• PUT MONEY where your mouth is:
o INVEST money in decorating your private space so you have financial “skin in the game,” and you want to make it worth your investment. Posters, workout charts, quilt photos, framed quotes from “thought leaders.”
o BUY that yoga mat, barbell, or sewing machine that you have being thinking about for months (or years).
o TACK the sales receipt where you can see it as a reminder of your commitment. (Lots of well-intentioned stationary bikes, yoga mats, and cross-country skis start to gather dust after a month of activity).
• THROW MUD on the Wall.
o DON’T WAIT to pick the ‘perfect time’ – it’s never going to happen.
o PUT your finger on the calendar and on a time slot – and just do it.
o ADJUST the day/precise time later if it proves to be unmanageable. Do NOT think that you have failed, MEASURE, ADJUST, MOVE ON.
• Time Based Habits. Routine is one of the best ways of controlling your perception of a situation. Knowing what is coming next is comforting, it facilitates planning, and it reduces mental stress.
• Eat with workouts or classes in mind.
• Fitness watches, such as a Fit-Bit or Apple Watch can help to keep you on schedule. Remember to turn the volume down at work or home to not disrupt others who may come to resent being reminded of your schedule.
• Sleep is the master-key. Same time to bed, same time to rise whenever possible.
o DISCONNECT from electronic devices 90 minutes before bed.
• When you get off schedule, DO NOT quit. The very essence of mindfulness is noting that you have drifted off your path. Simply get back on the path – without judgement and start again.
• BE PATIENT. Habit formation guidelines vary. You may read, 21, 45, 60, 90 days as the magic number. Just accept that it will take awhile and keep going. Consistency is the key.
Small Steps – Micro Habits Support Major Change
• Ambush your laziness with Visual Cues. Before bed – Put your sports, yoga mat, pottery kiln, quilting equipment where you can see it, even if you have to trip over it or step over it to remind yourself to just do it.
• Match the brain with the action. Turn off the Thinking Brain. Stop talking about it and do it. When you get up – don’t think, don’t talk, don’t check your email, just do one set of whatever – and then go pee.
• Pre-plan and PRACTICE your immediate actions (IA). If you feel yourself spinning off into “I am too tired” or “I am too busy,” etc. have an IA ready to go.
o PLAY your go-to psych up song.
o GO OUT for a 5 -minute walk.
o SPLASH cold water on your face.
o TAP the middle of your forehead with two fingers for 15-20 seconds until you disrupt your thoughts.
o DO one (or two) quick mental readiness routines, e.g. a 60 second Pilates flow, a Yoga Sun Salutation, your pre-run stretches, your singing warm-up, etc.
o The purpose of the IA is to get you “out of your head and into your body” long enough to break the mental spin-out, rationalizing, etc. Once you are into it your brain will likely say “Here we are let’s keep going.”
o PRACTICE your IAs so that they work when you really need them. “In case of emergency – break glass” seldom works. Your IAs are instinctive.
Summing up. COVID induced isolation needs more tools:
o BE FLEXIBLE. Mix and match whatever combination of micro-habits works for you.
o “RINSE, REPEAT” as necessary.
o REACH OUT. Lean on your accountability coach, partners, and routine when you need a brief break or a boost.
